Happy Labor Day....and happy Manic Monday. Hopefully it's not too manic, being a holiday and all. I just wanted to check in....and let you all know I'm not dead. I haven't posted for a couple days.You see, this weekend we had a fairly large family event at our home, and I've spent most of my time planning and preparing for it.
I was super stressed, and trying to make it not only enjoyable for our guests, but for my son....who was the guest of honor.
My husband pointed out that my staying up until the wee morning hours to make tissue flowers, probably was more for me....than it was for my son. Okay. I have to admit that my 8 year old probably doesn't care so much about whether the fruit dish, matches the color scheme I chose.
Anyway, after a conversation....that might have gotten a little heated for brief moments.....my husband and I came to some conclusions. I'd like to share them with you:
- #1: I will admit that I want things to look a certain way for myself....and for the praise of others....and to put pretty pictures on my blog.
- #2: I will realize that my family, and on this occasion....my son, need to come before a blog post about dessert tables.
- #3: I will re-assess how much time I spend on this particular event, and cut out some things that are really not essential.
- #4: In return, he will be understanding about my wanting to have all the items in matching bowls, and having colored things that match. Just because it makes me happy.
- #5: I will agree to clear silverware and cups....to save money. And think of them as "color-less". And breathe deeply as I display them.
- #6: Both of us will take the weekend off from technology and blogs and iPhones. And spend time together as a family.
- #7: The weather will agree to blow like the dickens, prohibiting any decor anyway. And ruining our brand new "tent". (goodbye $150 dollars.....) It will also agree to be 95 degrees. And everyone will have to come inside to keep from passing out.
Okay....that last one wasn't agreed upon, in advance. But it happened anyway. I did NOT however, agree not to cry about it. And so I did. A LOT!
Life is a balancing act. And when things get off balance. We're unhappy. I have enjoyed taking the weekend off from blogging. I gotta admit. It was nice. (although it did give me tiny bouts of anxiety.)
Right now, the boys are out hitting a bucket of golf balls....and I have decided to spend my hour of "me" time with a quick post.
Hopefully, as the holiday season quickly approaches, we will all spend a few minutes trying to "re-balance" our lives. As women, in particular, sometimes it seems nearly impossible. But that's the challenge of life. And if life wasn't challenging, it would be boring.
(I might need to get a tattoo that says that....just to help me remember on days when I want to shoot something....or someone....)
Hope you're having a GREAT Labor Day! (with not too much actual Labor!)
Sorry you were disappointed and that hubby called you out on a few things.....yep, been there, done that! But I bet you are hard on yourself and it turned out better than you thought.....but some good resolutions you came up with!
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Thanks for such a frank post! Other people's input is a good thing, especially when they make you think. Hope the party planning is a success.
ReplyDelete(And I doubt I'll ever get a tattoo... but that phrase would be a good one.)
I so understand the balancing act. My poor blog went to the wayside with work and home. I am the same while no kids (5 nieces and 1 nephew though) I do stay up late with projects so all is just right, only for the receiver to say nada...but I have decided that my craftiness for coworkers is starting much earlier this year, order parts for scrabble necklaces this past weekend for all 22 of them for Christmas...let us know how you find balance :) So we might learn too!
ReplyDeleteOh CRAP!! i hate the wind. and how dare it be windy on your special day!! So sorry things didn't go as planned. i'm sure it was still a very special day for your 8 year old. and for the record... the hubbys never really understand why we do what we do... but we still gotta do it!
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I agree -- it is all such a balancing act. It's hard to find boundaries and put limits on the time put into this blogging world. I have a hard time with this too and find myself up til the wee hours too. I'm sorry it was so windy for your special party.
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Jen
You rock!
ReplyDeleteLove your honesty! Sorry about the tent. :(
ReplyDeleteBalancing our lives is an ongoing necessity, isn't it? I, too, am learning that colorless utensils for a party is not the end of the world...and I am sorry for the wind and the heat. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteFrom someone who was at the party, it was a great success, even with the heat and the wind. Your 92 yr. old grandmother says she can't die yet because she has too much fun at your parties so keep on having them. People are the most important part of an event for sure, but a beautiful buffet table and amazing decorations sure brings alot of satisfaction.
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